The last few years many of the people I meet every day are computer geeks, which is kinda natural as I have been studying informatics myself, are/have been a member of the IT committee at the student society here in Trondheim, and finally are marrying one of them. And most of them/a lot of them are nice, normal people. But I have been thinking about how often some of them are in fact terribly rude. I have been deeply shocked many times about what people actually can say.

And I don’t think it’s just me either, I have asked other people what they think of f.ex an SMS, and they are usually as shocked as I am. I think I have read somewhere that people that are very smart have at least equal social skills as the rest of the population. But in my own experience with computer geeks, that is just not true. I didn’t usually become shocked over rudeness before, was that because everybody I knew were particularly polite? I don’t quite believe that either.

But what am I going to do about it? I can’t exactly start telling my soon-to-be husband who he is allowed to be friends with. But one thing is for sure, a lesson that I’ve learned many times (I’m apparently a slow learner), I can not just shut up and allow people to treat me exactly as they like, that will eventually make my confidence and consequently my overall happiness go down the drain.

Anyhow, Anders had his bachelor party last night, and I think he had fun. He is still asleep, and I guess he will be for a while yet. I am however starting to, or actually have been for quite some time, dread the whole wedding. The wedding itself will probably be allright, but the party for our friends is just Anders’ “thing”. As I have said before, what I wished for was just a small wedding on some remote island, but I agreed to do what was important for Anders. And because there are some parts that I really are not looking forward to, like being surrounded with too many people at once, it has gotten a bit difficult to be happy about the other stuff.

Which leads me to think that it’s just me who isn’t rude enough.